Who Will Pay For Your Perfect Wedding

Getting married these days can be extremely costly. So the very first thing to do, before you make any plans, is to find out who is paying and what the budget is. This is no time to be shy, because you do not want any surprises later! Talk with everyone involved and make sure that everyone knows the plan.

Now traditional wedding etiquette dictates that the bride’s father pay for the wedding. Of course that was back in the day when the father kept his daughter home. She did not work or go out. Her time was spent preparing to be a wife!

A daughter was given to a boy or man whom the father thought could take care of her. Since he was giving her away, he would pay for the wedding as his last gift and approval of the wedding.

Today, things are not set in stone. The daughter can still ask her parents to host the wedding. And if the parents of the groom have expressed an interest to help, they should be allowed to.

Since most couples today are both working, it would be perfectly acceptable, and is more common place, for them to either pay for the wedding or at least help. In this way they will have more control over the planning. They would not feel like they were putting undo pressure on someone else by inviting too many guests or having it at a nice place.

In my years in the business I have seen it done many different ways. Typically a couple will know their respective families financial situation, and whether or not to ask them to help.

Now I have said it before and I will say it again. Big, expensive weddings are nice. But they last for a day and then about the only thing left are the photos. It is not a wise plan to over spend and put undo pressure on anyone. If monies that are spent are borrowed, or have been saved for another purpose, such as a retirement or a college fund, you should really be careful with the expenses. There are many ways to cut costs. I have discussed a few and will be discussing some more.

The bottom line is that this is your biggest day. You want it to be as nice as possible. But you do not want someone remembering bad finances afterwards. So plan wisely!